What To Do When You Live With Someone Who Disrupts Your Peace

What to do when you live with someone who disturbs your peace…

This is a questions that I come across often. So many of us are affected by those we cohabitate with. And often many people choose to remain the victim of their living situation.

However, that is not the most empowering or high vibrational stand point to take in the situation. Is it bad? No.. nothing is good or bad, things just are. But choosing to make yourself a victim of your circumstances will lead you into heavier and more dense energies, which in turn create a resistance in your field making it more difficult for you to get where you want to be- which is usually at peace.

So we can’t just feel bad for ourselves, right? So what do we actually do when we’re living with someone(s) who are bringing us down, disrupting our peace and affecting our lives.

The first thing you have to do is to establish boundaries. This can be tricky depending on who you’re cohabitating with it. If you’re living with a family member, especially a parent, establishing boundaries may take a bit more time. If you were raised the way I was, you essentially weren’t allowed to have boundaries because the title of parent trumped you. However, that’s not the way the world works. Everybody is entitled to boundaries, regardless of their age. Because of this pattern, you may need to re-establish these boundaries a few times. When the person you’re living with does something that does not sit well with you, let them know how it makes you feel and what you wish they would do instead. The key is communicate clearly with kindness and compassion. Don’t let your emotions and frustrations get the best of you. If you do, it’s a sure fire way to start a disagreement. If you remain calm and speak your needs, things will go much more smoothly.

The second thing you must do is create space for yourself. Make sure you take time apart from the person you’re living with. When you’re spending too much time too close to somebody, their energy is sure to effect you. Making sure you have ample time to yourself to recalibrate your energy will help to soften the effect they have on you. You will be able to release the energy you picked up from them, and they won’t have such a strong effect on you and your peace.

The third, and probably the most important thing to do, is to make sure you have a space of your own that makes you feel peaceful. If you’re living with someone who disturbs your peace, and your space doesn’t bring you peace- you’re setting yourself up for disaster. Creating a space that makes you feel peaceful is a sure fire way to ensure that you feel peace on a daily basis. When you can retreat into your own peaceful sanctuary, it’s much easier to forget about the inconveniences of your roommate(s).

And lastly, create small rituals for yourself. Little pockets of peace throughout your day where you can tune into your own vibration and tune out of the inconveniences and annoyances of your current living situation. Many of us don’t have a choice, otherwise we’d choose a different living situation. So in those moments, we must find our own peace to get us through.

When we remain in an elevated vibration, the things we desire have an easier time finding us. There is less resistance because we are a vibrational match for our desires. It’s when we fall into the victimhood mentality of our circumstances that our desires takes longer to find us because we are not vibrating at a high enough frequency for them to find us.

So, if you’re living with someone who disturbs your peace.. set boundaries, take space for yourself, and make sure you have peaceful moments within a peaceful space of your own. You’ll get through this, and the higher your vibration remains throughout the process, the quicker and easier it will be to keep your sense of peace.

E N E R G Y ~

Energy is EVERYTHING –

It’s within us, around us, and all over us.

There’s literally no way to avoid energy because it’s what we are.

It makes up the entire world.

And if the entire world is energy, then the entire world can shift by simply shifting the vibes you’re playing in.

To do this…

We must first face ourselves;

What energy are we bringing to the table?

What wounds are causing us to recreate trauma?

What limits are we placing on ourselves?

What is stuck within our field?

When we begin to clear ourselves out from all the gunk we’ve accumulated over the years, we can then begin to see the world for what it is – ENERGY!

Energy is not inherently good or bad, it just is. That means we have all the power to create the world we want to live in.

But first, it starts with taking a look at ourselves.

And I’ll be real with you, it’s not always fun.

Facing yourself can be the most difficult person to face – but once you see it, once you feel it, once you’re able to truly let go.

Anything is possible.

You can create whatever you desire.

It’s all just energy.

What vibes are you sending into the world? Are they representative of the life you wish to create?

Free & Limitless

Allow yourself free

Unchain yourself from the pressure of the shoulds

Release the burden of their weight

Feel your natural rhythm

As you flow within the energy of the world

Break free from within the structures and limits

Knowing you are limitless potential walking the earth

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Create what you wish

Wish for it all

Allow yourself free

L I M I T L E S S

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#channeledinspirations

Self Care Isn’t Selfish

Have you ever forgotten about yourself?

I’m sure you have. You might not even realize it.

It happens so quickly. You’re going about your life- work, chores, responsibilities, relationships, etc. All of a sudden you realize you’re no longer in the mix.

Through taking care of it all.. doing what you feel you SHOULD do.. you lost yourself.

This just recently happened to me.

With a series of synchronistic events (thank you universe), it dawned on me; I’d forgotten about myself. I got too busy and wrapped up in being this person for everyone else, I hadn’t stopped to check in with myself.

My meditation practice became very sporadic.

My relaxing and very necessary healing baths became nonexistent.

The love I had for myself was fleeting before my eyes.

But why?

Because I wasn’t make it a priority. My priorities were my clients, my business, relaxation (aka Netflix and that’s not even real relaxation.. I’d re-qualify it as avoidance). I was focused on growing and thriving. Accomplishing more while doing less and being better every minute.

My efforts were great but very flawed.

When you don’t have the solid relationship with self, nothing else can truly thrive. You’re building on shaky grounds and before you know it, the building collapses.

The foundation of your life is the relationship you have with yourself. So I ask – have you forgotten about you?

The True Story

My raw, unfiltered story about heavily exaggerated responsibility. –

I’m gonna get really real with y’all….

When I was younger I was the one you didn’t have to worry about. I was the teachers pet, the rule follower, the one who would take care of you.

That’s me.. at my core.. responsible.

But when did it go too far?

For me- I know the EXACT moment that my responsibility was taken advantage of. I know the EXACT time that it became heavily exaggerated.

I was five years old, my parents were fighting, and my dad asked me if I thought he should leave us. A grown adult, asked the opinion of a five year old child (his five year old child!) on whether or not he should stay in his marriage.

I remember my response “you should go if that’s what makes you happiest.”

I was supposed to be a child, but in that moment I became the adult. I began to realize that people didn’t know what they were doing and I had to lead the way.

In that moment, I took on the weight of the world and lived with it ever since.

I feared that nobody else would pick up the ball.

I worried that people wouldn’t know what to do if I wasn’t there to steer them.

I felt like there was nobody there to take care of me so I had to do it myself.

I was afraid that if I let go of the reigns for even once second, the world would come crashing down and there’d be nobody there to protect me.

I had to protect myself.

My relationship with responsibility was tarnished. I felt I had to be responsible, there was no other way.

People began to know me as the responsible one. Responsibility became expected. If I acted like a child in any manor, I was faced with the disappointment of others. I let people down.

I held up my act as the responsible one for as long as I could. Sacrificing my childhood, not allowing myself to have fun in the moment, always worrying about being the protector and controller of it all.

Until I couldn’t anymore. The expectations became overwhelming. I was missing out on the joy the rest of the kids were having.. so I rebelled.

I went to the total other end of the spectrum. I partied. I threw responsibility out the window. If I wasn’t supposed to be doing it, I did it!

I drank. I smoked cigarettes. I got high.

I neglected school. I cut class. I didn’t do homework.

Anything that resembled following the rules was not for me. The pendulum swung in the other direction.

That was “fun” for a while, simply because I wasn’t being responsible. It was my version of letting loose, letting go, and loosening the grip. Until that didn’t work anymore either.

Since then I’ve been a pendulum.. swinging from super responsible Lisa to screw the rules Lisa. For years I operated at both ends of the spectrum, swinging back and forth.

At work I was responsible, got things done, and did my job well. But boy did I live for those weekends where I could have some (lots) of drinks and finally let loose.

Now, I’ve become really aware of this pattern. I see it in the things I’ve done. And more importantly, I see how this pattern has effected me.

I’ve become aware of how my pattern to avoid responsibility has also helped me avoid my power.

I’ve become aware of my how my need to be in control of all things has impacted my relationship to my power.

I’ve noticed how acting like a swinging pendulum in regards to responsibility has created a swinging pendulum effect with my power and my next level (in business and in life).

I’ve become so very aware of how my relationship to responsibility has effected everything!

Not only this.. I’ve become aware that I’m not the only one who went through this!

So many women, assumed responsibility from such a young age.

So many of us learned to take care of others before we learned how to take care of ourselves.

So many of us suffered from heavily exaggerated responsibilities.

If you’ve made it this far.. know that you’re not alone.

The Push and The Pull…

The push and the pull..

I remember when I first became aware of the push and pull. A coach of mine pointed it out when I was still with my ex. I was pushing and pulling him back and forth.

My relationship both with him and with myself were not healthy at that time. I remember associating the push and push with that of an unhealthy relationship.. it’s an unhealthy pattern, right?!

Not necessarily… as I’ve come to realize.. it’s actually quite natural. The moon has its phases, the oceans have their waves, and life ebbs and flows. It’s all a natural cycle of push and pull.. in its own divine rhythm.

The push and pull isn’t something to fear or to completely avoid. It’s something to notice. Become an observer of your patterns and the reasoning behind them.

Why are you pushing for more? What is it that you desire that you don’t currently have?

Why are you pulling away? What is it that you need to retreat from to create space for yourself?

There’s nothing wrong with the push and pull. It’s the ebb and flow of life. Use it to become aware of yourself, don’t try to dismiss it or push it away… pull it closer and study it. You are perfect exactly as you are.

Reflection

When’s the last time you reflected…

Reflected on your habits

Reflected on your patterns

Reflected on your reactions

Reflected on your thoughts

Reflected on your beliefs

Now is the perfect time.

Take a look at yourself, through eyes of love, and get real with yourself.

What habits are you holding onto that don’t serve you?

What patterns keep playing out in your life? What role are you playing in these patterns?

How do you react to inconveniences during your day? Can you shift these reactions to love?

What thoughts are running through your mind? Are they serving your highest good?

Are you choosing to believe in limits? Can you re-wire your brain to hold higher vibrational beliefs?

Now is the perfect time…

To reflect on yourself 💙

Are You Ready?

Do you feel the call in your soul?

The one crying out that you’re meant for more?

More than the 9-5 life.. more than the hustle & grind..

You know there’s more out there for you, you just haven’t quite grasped it yet.

You feel intuitive nudges, but can’t quite figure out how to decode and understand them yet.

You know there’s a whole spiritual world and you’re on the edge of the diving board, about to jump in…

You’re overwhelmed, excited, and READY…

You’re ready to learn the language of energy and how it works throughout all aspects of your life.

You’re ready to leave the bad vibes behind and stop living in the cycle of frustration, negativity, sadness, anxiety and anger.

You’re ready to commit to yourself, elevate your energy and uplift your entire life.

That’s where I come in 😉

I’m a master at energy.

I illuminate patterns you’ve been playing out that you’re not even conscious of.

I teach you how to shift your thoughts and beliefs to create the life of your dreams.

I guide you through discovering your spirituality and understanding the language of your soul.

I work with you closely as you began to uncover and understand how much more there is for you!

Email me (channeledinspirations@gmail.com) to find out what opportunities are currently available to work with me one on one.

xoxo. Love. Light. Lisa 💙

Express Yourself

It’s so important we let all of ourself be expressed

We are multifaceted human beings

Infinite energy having a human experience

It’s impossible for us to define ourselves in only one way

There are so many sides of me!

There’s the fun loving, bra burning, hippie who BELONGS at Woodstock

There’s the spiritual priestess who worships the light and is one with the universe

There’s the CEO who knows how to get shit done and run a business

There’s the teachers pet, rule following, good girl

There’s the over-the-top rebel who loves to push boundaries and take it to the extreme

There’s the earth goddess who wants to run naked and bare foot through the forest

&There’s so many more!

I’m just here to remind you that you don’t have to be just one thing…

B E. I T. A L L. 🌟

Be true. Be you.