What to do when you live with someone who disturbs your peace…
This is a questions that I come across often. So many of us are affected by those we cohabitate with. And often many people choose to remain the victim of their living situation.
However, that is not the most empowering or high vibrational stand point to take in the situation. Is it bad? No.. nothing is good or bad, things just are. But choosing to make yourself a victim of your circumstances will lead you into heavier and more dense energies, which in turn create a resistance in your field making it more difficult for you to get where you want to be- which is usually at peace.
So we can’t just feel bad for ourselves, right? So what do we actually do when we’re living with someone(s) who are bringing us down, disrupting our peace and affecting our lives.
The first thing you have to do is to establish boundaries. This can be tricky depending on who you’re cohabitating with it. If you’re living with a family member, especially a parent, establishing boundaries may take a bit more time. If you were raised the way I was, you essentially weren’t allowed to have boundaries because the title of parent trumped you. However, that’s not the way the world works. Everybody is entitled to boundaries, regardless of their age. Because of this pattern, you may need to re-establish these boundaries a few times. When the person you’re living with does something that does not sit well with you, let them know how it makes you feel and what you wish they would do instead. The key is communicate clearly with kindness and compassion. Don’t let your emotions and frustrations get the best of you. If you do, it’s a sure fire way to start a disagreement. If you remain calm and speak your needs, things will go much more smoothly.
The second thing you must do is create space for yourself. Make sure you take time apart from the person you’re living with. When you’re spending too much time too close to somebody, their energy is sure to effect you. Making sure you have ample time to yourself to recalibrate your energy will help to soften the effect they have on you. You will be able to release the energy you picked up from them, and they won’t have such a strong effect on you and your peace.
The third, and probably the most important thing to do, is to make sure you have a space of your own that makes you feel peaceful. If you’re living with someone who disturbs your peace, and your space doesn’t bring you peace- you’re setting yourself up for disaster. Creating a space that makes you feel peaceful is a sure fire way to ensure that you feel peace on a daily basis. When you can retreat into your own peaceful sanctuary, it’s much easier to forget about the inconveniences of your roommate(s).
And lastly, create small rituals for yourself. Little pockets of peace throughout your day where you can tune into your own vibration and tune out of the inconveniences and annoyances of your current living situation. Many of us don’t have a choice, otherwise we’d choose a different living situation. So in those moments, we must find our own peace to get us through.
When we remain in an elevated vibration, the things we desire have an easier time finding us. There is less resistance because we are a vibrational match for our desires. It’s when we fall into the victimhood mentality of our circumstances that our desires takes longer to find us because we are not vibrating at a high enough frequency for them to find us.
So, if you’re living with someone who disturbs your peace.. set boundaries, take space for yourself, and make sure you have peaceful moments within a peaceful space of your own. You’ll get through this, and the higher your vibration remains throughout the process, the quicker and easier it will be to keep your sense of peace.